Mommy Adventures: Parent Material

With all my heart and mind, I am very certain that Chef and I are not yet in the position to become parents. Sure, Captain Awesome seems to think we’re ready, but that’s because I bought him everything he asked for when we went to the store. But really, what makes a woman mommy-material? When is a couple really ready?

I was told that one will never really be ready for parenthood, even those who are actually trying. The reason is because even if all a couple wants is a child, the changes to come are beyond anything anyone can anticipate. I was talking to a friend the other day – who is pregnant with twins – and she said she thinks I’d be a good mom. That was really sweet. What is intesting is how the conversation went from me telling her about my Project Book to her believing that I’d be a good mom. She got all that from my list of projects and to-do’s?? Although she’s convinced of me, I am extremely doubtful of myself. When Captain Awesome and I went shopping, I forgot to feed him! I made up for it by buying him a whole pepperoni pizza for lunch at 4pm. I also think I need to get physically in shape and build endurance for the arduous task of parenthood. I would say Chef is more ready than me in the sense that he is physically fit to lift those bulky carseats and that he is an extremely patient man. On another hand though I’ve been getting domesticated and baking and cooking a lot – but that’s not something children would appreciate in their first 2 years or so.

I would say of course that even if a couple prepares for having a child financially, it is the mental, emotional, physical and spiritual capabilities that are harder to develop. I’ve been practicing a bit by actually doing something when it has to be done and not procrastinate – I heard babies are quite demanding LOL. And then there’s also that part of course of providing the best environment you can provide to a child. I don’t know but Chef and I still have our newlywed arguments, so we would need to get over that first. We would also have to get better at being responsible for other people instead of just ourselves. We’ve been independent for so long that we would need to acknowledge that at that time, someone else is actually going to be dependent on us. Yikes. Therefore, we would need a complete change in our lifestyle. The biggest challenge would probably be balancing parenthood with other dreams I wish to attain. Perhaps that is one reason why I am hurrying up on some of my projects.

It takes more than having a kid for a person to become a parent. There’s so many people out there with kids but do not warrant the prestigious “Parent” title. I am just hoping and praying that by the time Chef and I become one, we’re as ready as we can be and that we will know how to respond to the major challenges that can come from a teeny tiny human being.